Love, Trauma, Relationships: when the past shapes your present

Do you ask yourself questions like:

- Why do I end up in the same kind of relationship over and over again?

- Why am I trapped in patterns that I cannot escape?

- Why don't I recognize myself when I am in a relationship? What happens to me?

- Why are my emotions like a rollercoaster or all over the place?

- Maybe I am not made for having a relationships?

- What is wrong with me?

During the retreat we will explore how unresolved trauma and past challenging experiences impact the way we enter relationships, and how we experience trust, intimacy and connection.

So many of us end up in relationships that are not fulfilling (best case scenario), or hurtful (worst case scenario).

We feel stuck, we suffer, we are not able to leave or… on the opposite, not able to stay. Our body goes into a lot of tension, our mind starts overthinking and we embody the worst, or the childish, part of ourselves.

And we don’t know why… what happens to us. We experience a lot of emotional disregulation, ups and downs, confusion and suffering.

It doesn’t matter if having a loving relationship is our biggest wish: it seems that we are just not able to create it. No matter what we do… or don’t do.

This looks a lot like me and my own experience. I am a great manifestor, I have been able to create a lot of good things for myself, but relationships have always been the field where Life has taught me a lot of lessons … and often the hard way.

This retreat is not about how a good relationship should be and what a toxic one is about. There are so many great books and websites explaining it.

My wish is to take your hand and embark with you on a journey where we will uncover the root of your patterns and I will share what I have understood myself… what I have done in my own life for transforming my dysfunctional patterns, after researching and studying the theory for years.

Because this is the thing: I know what it takes to make those changes happen in the day to day life… when our whole being and system is rebelling or reacting in uncontrolled ways (due to trauma). When the sadness, the triggers and the suffering come back to us. And we just feel lost, we feel broken.

Since I have been an alchemist in my own life and relationships, sometimes I come from a different perspective: I had to find a way to break the theory down and to make it work in a life that has been full of relational trauma since my early childhood. We are all human beings, and sometime the clear, linear, theory is not so easy to put into practice.

One of the goals of this retreat is to support you in moving from the drama triangle (savior-victim-persecutor) where many people are stuck, to the empowerment dynamics. I will support you in understanding why you love the way you love, and what you can do for shifting your patterns.

This workshop is not only for people struggling with romantic relationships. It applies to all kind of close connections, even though the relationship we have with a romantic partner and with our primary caregivers (usually our parents) are the deepest and the most challenging, because they are able to mirror us at a core level. And here is were our deepest wounds live.

TOOLS WE WILL USE DURING THE RETREAT:

Attachment theory

Family constellations process

Time machine exercise

Self and co-regulation exercises

Inner child process

Letting go process

How to manage during an emotional flashback

Mirroring: the shadow principle

Limerence: how to deal with it

Welcome to this deep and transformative inner journey together with a small group that will feel like friends by the end of the retreat.

WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT:

A weekend of exploration, inner inquiry, transformational work

A safe space held with kindness and empathy

A supportive group

Sharing, processing, breakthrought

Tools to take back home with you

Possibility to continue your jouney with one to one sessions with Barbara

Peaceful, amazing Nature with possibility for bathing and having walks around the center

Delicious and nourishing food, relaxation, self-regulation.

PROGRAM FOR THE RETREAT

Friday:

15.00 - 17.00 Arrival

17.00 - 18.00 Opening Circle

18.00 - 19.30 Dinner

19.30 - 21.00 Evening session

Saturday:

8.00 - 9.00 Morning practice

9.00 -11.00 Breakfast and free time

11.00 -13.00 Session

13.00 - 15.00 Lunch and free time

15.00 - 18.00 Session

18.00 - 19.30 Dinner

19.30 - 20.30 Relaxation practice: yoga nidra

Sunday:

8.00 - 9.00 Morning practice

9.00 - 11.00 Breakfast and free time

11.00 - 13.00 Session

13.00 - 14.00 Lunch

14.00 - 15.00 Integration Circle and tools to bring home

Please note that some changes in the program might happen.

PRACTICAL INFORMATION

WHERE: Opaker Gård, Kirkenær. Possibility to get a pick up both from Kirkenær or Kongsvinger (connect for more info).

LANGUAGE: the retreat will be held in English, but if you feel more comfortable in speaking Norwegian, it is ok.

CONTACT INFO AND BOOKING:

Barbara: phone: 489 22 508

Mail: barbara.voltolini@gmail.com

Sign up form: please fill out this form and I will send you all the pratical info for the booking. Thanks!

SIGN up form: https://tinyurl.com/5bbczs8c

MONEY EXCHANGE:

The money exchange includes the program and course material, two nights in the choosen accommodation, all the meals (vegetarian and vegan options available), coffee and te during the breaks.

Single room with own bathroom: 5100 kr

Double room with own bathroom: 4350 kr

Triple room with own bathroom: 3600 kr

Single room with shared bathroom: 4700 kr

Double room with shared bathroom: 3950 kr

Because of the depth of this retreat, the group will be small, with limited spots in the Circle. Book in good time!

ABOUT BARBARA: she defines herself as a survivor of her past. She has created an alchemic process in her own journey, facing her shadows, trauma and ego and transforming them into awareness. Her mission is to support other people in doing the same.

Relationships have a specific meaning in her life and field of interest, because this has been the way Life has taught her the hardest lessons.

She is trained in bodywork with specific focus on cranio-sacral therapy and dearmoring, and in several other approaches: Family constellations, Metamedicine, Past life regression, Trauma healing.